I will never forget him my first sugar daddy. He is the one who helped me take the first step into the sugar bowl, taught me the basic rules of sugar relationship, and let me see the possibilities of myself. I know how sugar babies always want to see the glamour side of Sugaring, but I wanna share something else. Not gonna educate anyone just hoping it can help other sugar babies especially the newbies.
Before I Met My First Sugar Daddy
When I started sugaring a few years ago, I was totally broke and in a terrible relationship, poor and desperate, struggling with the heavy burden of the college loan. Just about the time I’m going to give up the college, I found a story on the internet about how being a sugar baby changed this girl’s life.
After that, there’s always a sound in my heart saying just go and be a gold digger, manipulate men and take their money! Because the sugar story I read looks pretty easy, so silly I thought maybe just a few dates with some old men can help me get rid of the debt.
As a newbie, I had no idea about the trending of sugaring and what to do. So I did much research about sugaring both online and offline. My first sugar daddy is an old man who is literally at the age of my grandpa, actually a 63 old retired engineer in LA. Let’s call him Mr. G.
Mr. G looks like a gentleman from his words online and we have some nice chats there. He told me that he lost his wife a few years ago, and he had a daughter and a son but they both lived abroad, and he was just lonely and needed someone to keep accompany with.
To my appointment, he didn’t agree on the so-called dates without sex. He said that he used to have 3 sugar babies, all of them are young college girls (obviously young college girl is always his type), and all the sugar relationships are related to sex.
Honestly, I was literally in a shock, I realize that those perfect sugar stories are just fairy tales. You can’t ask a man to pay for your college just with some nice dinners and romantic dates! But I really need the money to pay for my college, and I’ve dated old guys at forties before in reality, of course never with someone as old as Mr. G. The truth is I don’t have problems with gap date as long as I like him. “At least old men are much better than the broke young boys”, I comfort myself like that.
How Did I Meet My First Sugar Daddy
To me, sugaring is perfectly normal and I like it. But you know people always like to blame women everything, especially with sex relationship. At that time sugaring is not as popular as it is today, so I was the one to be blamed. I have to admit that I was under much pressure doing it.
I decided to meet him in reality and see if I like Mr. G. We set up a POT date at the coffee. Yes, the truth is that either is he handsome or generous as the sugar stories said! He did show me the pictures of his thirties before, well all I can say is that he looks totally different and much older than I’ve imagined. But luckily he’s really a nice gentleman with humor, he shows the respect of me and said he likes me, willing to help me with the college loan as long as we keep a good relationship.
You know I always prefer a mature man with wisdom and humor, if he’s younger I thought maybe I could full in love with him. We kept this relationship for nearly a year and he helped me with about half of my debt. Yes, I said only half of my debt, as I mentioned he’s not a millionaire or as generous as the fairy tale said. And either did he buy me a Ferrari or a Louis Vuitton bag. But he’s a nice lover and we had a good time.
I like Mr. G and I’m grateful for meeting him at the begin, not some weird creepy guys. The relationship ended when I finished college and decided to leave LA and start something new in New York. It’s a pretty good start of sugaring, Mr. G supported me both financially and emotionally, he taught me some basic rules of sugar relationship and totally changed me from a newbie to a mature sugar baby.
What did I learn from the First Sugar Daddy?
Sugaring is Much Different from the Normal Dating
Whatever people call this relationship between the sugar daddy and sugar baby, it’s pretty much just a kind of mutually beneficial relationship.
On the normal dates people typically lie about what they want and what they have to offer, just wanna make themselves look good from the outside. But in the sugar relationship, people are more truthful about that. You can lie all you want but it will come out immediately when things aren’t going right. Like for instance, when sugaring you always go on a POT dates at first. You’ll set and talk face to face about your allowance, what you except for each other in this relationship and so on.
Once the Money Stopped, You Need to Stop Whatever You are Doing
Real life relationship is not actually a mutual thing and also not mutually beneficial. So the difference is that sugar baby side is more like a business thing, you save your heart and things for that. In real life relationship, you have the willingness to be hurt. Every crazy thing you wanna do on that person is all because of love. So there’s monetary beneficial and emotionally beneficial.
But on the other hand, pretty much sugar daddy is just the same as a regular daddy you put a name to it, they are much more trustworthy and truthful. It’s kind of like the same thing, you are just trying to make yourself look good to the other person. It’s nothing wrong, just 2 people who are deciding what they wanna do and how they wanna live their life and what they wanna do to each other.
Sugaring is Totally up to You
You should create your relationship on your own term. What you do beneficially is up to you. The sugaring could be anything, literally, you choose what you want and you agree on it: sex, without sex, just somebody who wants to go dating or just dinner.
If that person didn’t hold it up to the end of the bargain, you can just end it. Don’t give in if you’re not comfortable with it cause once you give in men always ask more and you’ll lose the bottom line.
Yeah, that’s pretty much what I learned from the first sugaring experience with my first sugar daddy, not a perfect one but I like it. And hope it can help you my sugar sisters.