Do You Keep Your Sugar Arrangement Secret? And Why? - 11
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Sugar Baby / 30
Yes, there is such a stigma around it. Not to mention my buisness is my own. Living in the south especially in the bible belt this kind of thing is frowned upon. I personally don't find anything wrong with it nor am I ashamed of it. However I know that if my family found out they would be very upset and ashamed of me, which is something I don't want to have to deal with.
2023-02-22
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Sugar Baby / 25
Yes, Because i just think its best so people are talking and aren't up in my business, giving me bullshit i dont need. It's annoying and irrelevant sooooo it's best to keep in on the down low and quiet. I'm trying to make money and my sugar daddy needs someone to be there and I'm totally down for that. I dont think i could ever be so public about it
2023-02-22
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Sugar Baby / 25
Honestly, it just your own opinion and your partners opinion. If you don't want people to know about it, you don't have to tell anyone. It's your own personal business. If you don't mind people knowing and neither does your partner, then go ahead and tell people if you want. For me personally, if my partner doesn't mind then neither do I, but it will be more of something that will only be told if asked. "You did know? Its because you didnt ask."
2023-02-23
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Sugar Baby / 29
I am pretty open with my lifestyle. Me being a sugar baby and me in my everyday has no difference. I am my fun-loving self whether I am in front of customers, my boss or my sugar daddy. It may not be for everyone but I try to help people not to be embarrassed if they have one. I have friends who I encourage to be open like me. Being on the Sudy app is a learning experience, the app maybe new for me but being a sugar baby is not! To anyone who is reading this, just be yourself!
2023-02-24
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Sugar Baby / 28
Discretion is important to me, and I think my SD would appreciate that. It's not out of shame for what I'm doing but rather because I don't feel like having the same conversation over and over again when someone asks me what I do for a living. If you tell a random person that you are a SB they will look at you like an attraction at the circus. Some things are better left unsaid!
2023-02-25
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Sugar Baby / 26
Yes, I don't think it's anyones business to know what I'm doing, my main purpose is not to find a soulmate while living the sugar life, if I were to want to settle down I would stop the sugar lifestyle, I am very straightforward with what I want and I will tell exactly what I am looking for in this, it should be discreet, and if the daddy that is interested in me doesn't want it to be discreet, well too bad I'm sorry but not everyone wants to blast this out there, but if you're fine with it that is totally fine as well.
2023-03-01
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Sugar Baby / 26
I personally would like to keep my sugaring a secret. That type of information is not something that others around you need to be aware of. You may want to share with your closest friends, but other than that I find it unnecessary. Apart of the process of sugaring does include money, so the less people that know about it, the better for you. If people know you are receiving a bit of money on a weekly basis, the chances of them making you their bank is way more likely, so try to keep it on the down low to make sure your other relationships don’t get strained.
2023-03-04
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Sugar Baby / 34
Typically, yes I do. I like my business to stay my business unless of course we plan to make this more of a permanent arrangement. Most sugar daddy's are married though so all my experiences have been exclusive and very silent. Just depends on the guy and what you want as well. Usually the men are very much older and quite frankly , my family would know right off the bat lol so I try to keep it a secret.
2023-03-04
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Sugar Baby / 31
I personally keep my sugaring a secret, except to my one girlfriend who is also a sugar baby (so speaking to her about it all is basic conversation for us). I keep it a secret because I feel many sugar daddies want discretion, and unless we both don’t mind I don’t feel anyone needs to know about it. I also keep it a secret just to avoid sugar haters or any judgement in my choice of lifestyle.
2023-03-07
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Sugar Baby / 25
Yes, because it's nobody's business what you do I believe what you do on your free time is up to you. I feel like everyone has a reason for making the choice they do in life good or bad. I can see why someone would keep this kinda thing a secret...a lot of people wouldn't understand. Hell they would disagree but you gotta make my own choices, live and learn.
2023-03-09
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Sugar Baby / 26
Although I’m certainly open about most of what I do, for myself and my public image, discretion is key. I can certainly understand how most could be proud of what they’ve accomplished within their relationship, but I’m here to enjoy my private life, and to keep it private. As for the sugar life in general, it’s no ones business what one might decide or not decide to share, it’s their life, and their life alone with whomever they decide to involve in it.
2023-03-12
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Sugar Baby / 30
It All Depends On The Situation If He’s Married Then Yes It’s Best You Keep It A Secret Because You Don’t Want To Do Nothing To Mess Up What Y’all Have Going. Keeping it A Secret Will No Cause Any Problems But If He’s Not Married And you Or Him Doesn’t care about being Secret then you can let it be known because who cares what anyone when he’s the only man that’s paying all your bills.
2023-03-14
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Sugar Baby / 26
I’m new to this so haven’t found a sugar momma yet :( However if I ever do I think I’d not tell people, I’d rather be discreet about it, especially since people are so judgemental. Maybe if society was more accepting towards things like this I could tell people but I think for now at least I’d much rather keep it to myself. Hopefully I’ll actually find a sugar momma first though 😅
2023-03-17
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Sugar Baby / 34
Most simply answered is, yes. There are many reasons why I keep it a secret. The biggest reason is not many people understand this lifestyle and I wouldn't want someone to tell my family or my daughter something that isn't true about people in this community. I also keep it a secret because whenever I have told people about it they automatically think it is someone that just wants to use me for sex and that is not what this is always about.
2023-03-18
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Sugar Baby / 32
I preferably would keep my sugaring secret. It’s between me and my sugar daddy what and when and where we decide to do. Intimate or not. I like to be discreet. It’s mine and my sugar daddy’s business and no one else’s. ❤️ I am very interested in finding someone with that same mentality as well so keep a look out hahaha. But seriously. I prefer to be kept secret
2023-03-21
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Sugar Baby / 26
I do because im still so young and my parents would definetly not allow any of it but i keep it secret also because it is embarrassing and I don't think it's something to be proud of but I just really need this little extra push of help to get me and my family back on track and also mine. I'm aware that this isn't something to take lightly and it is somewhat serious because I have no idea how to do anything but I'm really trying.
2023-03-22
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Sugar Baby / 25
Yes, I keep my sugaring habit to my self because it is my business. If nobody ask I don't tell. The second major reason is my mom. She loves me to much to tell me all the money problems we have. My dad left us and her job plus my job is just barely just enough. It is upsetting if she knows I have to usemy body so we can have a little more, I don't want her thinking she failed me as a parent.
2023-03-27
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Sugar Baby / 28
I believe it should be a discreet thing. You never know what type of life someone is living and what they are going through. I keep it a secret as a courtesy to my sugar daddies and also because its my secret comfort. It's something I don't want the rest of my life to taint and and vise versa. Most SDs are looking for something a discreet anyway so its not a loss
2023-03-30
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Sugar Baby / 28
Yes I do keep it a secret because I'm so new to this. I don't know peoples reactions if I told them and I can't be sure that my sugar daddy wants people to know about the nature of the relationship. Sure in time if both parts of the relationships are okay with people knowing then sure I would tell but still probably just closest people to me and to him.
2023-03-30
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Sugar Baby / 26
Because my family us old fashion and if I tell them I have a SD they might disown me. We live in a society where proe Judge. They judge you when you do things that "aren't normal". And by having your friends and family knowing you have a SD you can be risking his life/ reputation. And plus he's my daddy no one I don't want anyone texting him or trying to take him from me.
2023-03-31
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Sugar Baby / 43
I believe it is something very intimate and most SD would usually prefer for low profile relationships. Remember most of these men are in social positons where being an SD is not well looked at and that can bring bad business retaliations to them. Being discreet is super important for men in these times were everything is posted and put in a great spotlight.
2023-04-02
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Sugar Baby / 26
it depends. i tell the people who wont judge me for it, such as close friends. whereas peers, family members, or workers could assume you arent able to care for yourself, are dependent, or are lazy. sugar babying has lots of reasons behind it but people who dont know you very well could assume the worst, changing their perspective of you. i tend to keep sugar babying a secret from everyone but my best friends.
2023-04-03
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Sugar Baby / 39
Of course I keep it secret. Because it isn't anybody's business but my own and my daddies. I figure if I've had a conversation with my daddy and we are both on the same page about the sugaring then I would maybe tell someone. But it's completely up to him and what he is comfortable with me sharing being a baby is all about trust and communication.
2023-04-03
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Sugar Baby / 26
I dont keep the life style a secret from people who really want to know about it. I do keep who my suger daddy is a secret. Incase he didnt want people to know. As long as both people are okay with eveyone knowing then its fine to be open about the relationship that you are having. Since i open about all of this I explain whatbut like and what are the benefits of it all
2023-04-08
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Sugar Baby / 51
I believe that should be a question decided as soon as the relationship starts so both are aware and know what's up. I personally don't have issue with anyone knowing but if my sugar daddy wanted it hush hush well it's hush hush. He is in command and has the final say so in the situation concerning knowledge of the relationship. After all gottamake daddy happy.
2023-04-09
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Sugar Baby / 51
No I don't keep my Sugar Daddy a secret. I'm not ashamed to be offered and getting money from a older gentleman. I don't say if I had sex for the money but I do tell people about him. Most of the time my life is a open book I don't hide much of anything. If your ashamed of something your doing then you probably should not be doing it. People don't have to know the whole story St times but you can tell parts of it
2023-04-12
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Sugar Baby / 27
Yes! I think this has to do a lot with this not being a normal relationship at all. Some of us have our own private life and reputation to keep. NSA is good to have so when it does end, there is no drama nor feelings hurt. It's also not something widely accepted either, so a lot of us chose to keep it a secret. I personally keep it NSA because I do not want my private life invaded, and I'm sure any SDs & SMs wouldn't either
2023-04-15
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Sugar Baby / 25
My family would definitely disapprove if they knew that I was partaking in a Sugar relationship. I keep it a secret from them. There are many things about Sugar relationships that others have a difficult time understanding, and I dob’t see the point in going out of my way to explain something if it makes me happy. I think it is also rude to the other party in the relationship as many are trying to keep the relationship a secret.
2023-04-21
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Sugar Baby / 25
At first I was open about it but then after awhile I kept it a secret due to my friends harassing me constantly about it and asking me many questions and calling me derogatory terms since many people still see sugar baby and sugar daddy relationships odd and unacceptable but I do tell people who I know won’t make fun of me and who I usually get advice from
2023-04-21
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Sugar Baby / 36
I think it all depends on the agreement between SD and SB. If discretion is important to either party, then that should be honored. Otherwise I have no shame about having a sugardaddy in my life. I have a true love for an individual who puts energy and time into creating a more comfortable life for me. I wouldn’t want to hide that person.
2023-04-24
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Sugar Baby / 31
Yes, I keep my sugaring a secret just because of the negative attention or energy I might get in return. When you mention "sugar daddy" most people will just assume you're having sex with them but that isn't always the case. I'm very aware that you shouldn't always care what others have to say but a lot of negative things could affect the relationship or even how you feel about your sugar daddy.
2023-04-25
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Sugar Baby / 28
Hell yes. I’ve told people and most of it led to broken friendships and jealousy. I had one friend I tried to put on, but he got bad because I was making money and he wasn’t. And things like hag are toxic. So I normally tend to keep people out of it. People like the idea or NOUN of sugaring, but more than less the actual VERB of doing it and putting in work
2023-04-25
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Sugar Baby / 32
It’s not so much that I keep it a secret it’s just that it’s nobody’s business in what I do with my love life. I am a very private person and the 3 most important things that I keep private are my money, what moves I’m making, and love life. There’s a difference between keeping secrets and being low key.
2023-04-25
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Sugar Baby / 30
I keep my sugaring secret to protect me and my SD. When I am out in the world, I have a job, I’m working on a competitive degree, and I call the shots. However when in an SB/SD relationship I also have to make sure my SD feels his freedom as well! That gets jeopardized if we don’t agree on each other’s boundaries. If you and your SD mutually agree on publicizing your relationship, more power to ya! Until then, my lips are sealed.
2023-04-25
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Sugar Baby / 32
I do yes . For two main reasons . 1 : your relationship should remain discreet unless both parties are comfortable making it public , some daddies don’t want to be known as SD’s and you should always respect that . 2 : SB/SD relationships aren’t for everyone & I find a lot of closed minded people will judge you for being one without knowing all the facts . Sometimes it’s easier to just be discreet .
2023-04-25
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Sugar Baby / 26
Absolutely. Unless both parties don’t care and want to publicly announce the type of relationship they have, you should go into an sd relationship with discretion for both of you guys. A lot of daddies expect and appreciate discretion. Then again that’s my opinion. Who knows what others could think 💭 🤔 Happy Sugaring 😊
2023-04-25
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Sugar Baby / 53
I believe it to be a discreet business deal. Confidentiality is important and I'm sure he doesn't want it broadcasted, anymore than I do. Being a Sugar baby, I know this going into it and respect that first and foremost. I wouldn't want to disappoint him or disrespect him, so we would discuss this in the beginning. An arrangement where money exchange hands is a business deal and business deals are private.
2023-04-26
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Sugar Baby / 25
It depends on the daddy and his discretion, it’s respectful to keep it quiet unless he says so. You should listen to your daddy and let him know he can trust you with your relationship. Breaching this trust will make him wants to cut ties or can affect his life and career on certain matters. I believe discretion is very important in a sugar relationship.
2023-04-26
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Sugar Baby / 26
I lie to my family, but besides that I tell everyone. Why not have a little fun? I’m not ashamed, I just don’t wanna worry my family. Just accept your youth and be happy with yourself and your choices! Life is too short for secrets and regrets! I’m proud of the crazy fun I can have here, and happy to share my adventures with my pals.
2023-04-26
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Sugar Baby / 35
Yes , I do . It’s not everyone’s business what I’m doing in my spare time . Nobody needs to know about my dirty secrets ! What I choose to share is really little . I like to do certain things . With a little motivations Why not . I don’t want to be judged for my behavior by daily peers etc. Rather just keep it to myself
2023-04-26
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Sugar Baby / 26
It is kind of looked down upon, and I know a lot of people around me (especially my family) is against it. And people stigmatize you, and put you in categories like being a prostitute. I’m not ashamed of this type of lifestyle, but I rather keep it on the down low so I don’t have to deal with the ignorance of people around me. I can only educate them so much. Not everyone is willing to listen and not everyone will understand how this lifestyle works. If keeping a secret creates less confrontation, then so be it. But I have no problem with being public.
2023-04-26
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Sugar Baby / 29
I defiantly keep it a secret. No one needs to know my personal business and where my money comes from. The front page that they see is me working and saving to get where I want to go/got to. Sometimes you just need a secretive extra push to achieve greater things for yourself. Why not get that from someone who’s already there? And also learn how to do it yourself. Grind in silence. Relationships are private.
2023-04-27
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Sugar Baby / 25
My best girly knows, and she gets it, and even considers it herself sometimes, but she’s the only one I’ve told. I’m more open with my ideas about sex and relationships then my family, so they wouldn’t approve, but in a way that makes the whole experience more exciting! I’m a sucker for forbidden romance ❤️
2023-04-28
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Sugar Baby / 29
Personally I think it should be kept s secret for the simple fact off the sugar daddy could have a wife and kids the sugar baby could have kids and as parents you don’t want your children to grow up and know those things about you. That’s what I think I personally. Unless discussed otherwise it should be kept s secret
2023-04-29
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Sugar Baby / 26
I do keep it a secret because it comes with a lot of judgement and backlash. not only that, but it isn’t anybody else’s business but mine and my sugar daddy, period point blank. i also keep it a secret because it is a relationship that should be kept between two people and if we decide together to go public with this, that will be our choice to make together
2023-04-29
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Sugar Baby / 26
I do prefer to keep my sugar lifestyle private due to the fact that there is a lot stigma around this lifestyle choice. I also feel that it's none of anybody else's business. The sugar baby lifestyle is one that helps people lacking funds further their future and also helps people seeking company when alone.
2023-04-30
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Sugar Baby / 30
I do like to keep my sugar relationship secret or more private I'd say because it's my business and people don't need to know it. I also don't like to explain my reasons to people that feel the need that I owe an explanation. I am a woman and like my privacy. I don't mind being shown off in public but I do not like the fact of having to tell my friends or family unless I feel comfortable doing so.
2023-04-30
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Sugar Baby / 25
Yes I keep my sugaring a secret because I live with my parents and they don’t know about me liking both genders so if they saw this they would probably kill me. My friends are the only ones that know and not even all of them know. My parents are super strict with everything I do and are very anti lgbt sadly but I try to not let that stop me.
2023-05-03
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Sugar Baby / 27
Id like to keep it a secret because it's no one else's business normally the sugar daddy wants to keep it a secret anyway. That's a personal experience that should be kept between you and your sugar daddy. There is no reason for the world to know that you are with someone and experiencing life. However you can post pictures together and everything.
2023-05-07
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Sugar Baby / 26
Yes I do, mainly because I know the people around me won’t be accepting of it. Like my family and friends have already spoken on how they feel about sugar daddy relationships, and they don’t agree with them. Also, I feel like I’m good at making my own decisions so because of that I keep it to myself.
2023-05-08