Do You Keep Your Sugar Arrangement Secret? And Why? - 10
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Sugar Baby / 26
I keep it a secret. I do it because I don't know how other people in my life would react if they found out. My family wouldn't like it for sure. I'm not trying to get disowned. I just want some fun and financial stability without other people finding out. I don't really think it's anyone's business what I do on the side anyways. As long as I'm happy.
2023-01-13
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Sugar Baby / 43
Obviously, I would keep it as a secret. I have job, family and friends. Sugar lifestyle is not a job. I don't think its something to be share. Especially if my sugar Daddy is someone important to his office, like he is the face of the company or maybe he has a wife or girlfriend, I dont think they want to share Sugar lifestyle into public consumption. Friends, family, work and much more can come into play so again I think it's best that discretion is advised.
2023-01-13
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Sugar Baby / 25
Yes, I believe it should be secret unless both of them agree to have it open to the public. i would like to have it secret for the fact i domt want my friends to know about nw and judge me. Or have my family know about me and be upset. I onlt let a small amount of friends know about me and what i do and i plan on keeping it that way until um comfortable sharing :)
2023-01-13
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Sugar Baby / 45
Yes I keep my sudy to myself and private. What I do in my personal life is no one else's business. Even though I am online you know half naked to the world. Privacy is important to sugars and daddies. What people do behind closed doors and in the privacy of their own home as their business who are we to judge until we walk a day in their shoes. Which really doesn't happen very often.
2023-01-13
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Sugar Baby / 28
Yes I keep it private and to myself because I believe that the perception of sugar baby/daddy's in today's society is negative. For those who do not mind being out there it's okay but for others it is kind of a deal breaker. It is much more than just getting money from a stranger like everyone think it actually is. Other than that I am mostly a private person about my relationships in general..
2023-01-13
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Sugar Baby / 43
Secrecy is repugnant in a free and open society. A part from that, I have always been a very blunt and utterly honest. Lying has always been excruciatingly difficult for me. Yet one the other side of the coin, If my glucose guardian requested that our affairs remain between her and I then as a man of my word. I wont utter a single word about any of it.
2023-01-13
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Sugar Baby / 26
No. I am open about it because I would feel like I'm doing somethig wrong if I felt the need to keep it a secret. I'm open because it could potentially be dangerous if nobody knew I was going out with older men on dates. Plus, its fun seeing my friends reactions when they find out I'm a sugar baby, because they get so shocked and are awed by my confidence about being a sugar baby.
2023-01-13
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Sugar Baby / 33
Well I certainly keep secret any of the people I meet/match/talk to on here, but if a friend of mine asks me about it, I’ll answer him/her and tell her about it. To be honest, I’m new to this whole kind of world. But I do value secrecy when it comes to another person. I guess, for myself, if I’m comfortable telling my friend about it, why should I have any issue discussing it?
2023-01-13
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Sugar Baby / 26
In my opinion I would prefer to stay quiet as a sugar baby as I don’t want all I my friends and family to know what I do other than just work a part time job. If I chose to tell a few close friends I will but I live with my mum and I don’t want her to find out until I feel like I need to tell her. Personally I would prefer to stay quiet from the sugar daddy’s public life as well just out respect.
2023-01-13
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Sugar Baby / 31
Well, It's currently a secret, because in my family? Sugar Daddies and Sugar babies don't exist. They are very strict with certain ideas and different things. Besides that, it should be a secret on my side until/if the other party would want it to keep it a secret. I'm not one to say anything that isn't my business. No matter what, respect is key too.
2023-01-13
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Sugar Baby / 35
I guess it depends telling my friends would not be a problem because they do not judge that's why we are friend but my family no mainly because I do not want to hear anything negative play certain people in my family I will tell like my cousin and my sister mainly because they do not judge as well they support anything that I do just like I support any decisions that they make in life
2023-01-14
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Sugar Baby / 33
I think that it should be kept kept secret unless both of us agree that it isn't important to either of us. The respectful and polite thing to do, in my opinion, is to keep the relationship on the down low unless it becomes serious. I also feel that there are levels of secrecy- being seen together in public, or being a known couple to friends/families, etc. and both of us agree that it's ok to tell everyone
2023-01-14
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Sugar Baby / 30
I generally like to keep my live life private. It makes it easier for outside influences to ml not affect my relationship. I don't mind going if we both want people the know that we are together, but I normally like to keep things only between me, the person I'm with and people very close to my heart. Of course this is always situational depending on me and the person I have a relationship with :)
2023-01-14
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Sugar Baby / 34
I dont feel like what i choose to do is anyone elses business. Unless both parties involved talked about it and were both ok with it then maybe i could see sharing. But people are so judgemental and worry too much about what other people are doing with their lives. I think people should learn that we all have different ways of life and love and that as long as were happy thats all that should matter
2023-01-14
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Sugar Baby / 27
Yes I keep my sugaring a secret because i want to get all the sugar I can. I know its greedy but i guess that's me. If its un noticed it will just keep coming in. If everyone knows your getting all the sugar then no one will want ti give it to you. Its like you see a poor person on the street you give them money before youd give a averger stranger living a stable life money or a noble rich man.
2023-01-14
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Sugar Baby / 25
Yes I would prefer to keep it a secret for many reasons. Number one being though I don’t like everyone in my business. Number two reason is I wouldn’t want anyone to try and snatch my daddy away from me. He’s my daddy. And I honestly don’t want to share unless I have to. If my daddy wants us to put it out there then I will do just that. If not then it’ll be our little secret.
2023-01-14
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Sugar Baby / 30
Yes I keep it a secret because I believe in privacy for both partners unless discussed other wise in other words everybody's business ain't nobody's business.so if someone is looking for something discreet I'm the one for you I always aim to keep my sugar daddy happy and satisfied.i know my place and I stay in it and I always keep you in mind no matter what the situation.
2023-01-14
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Sugar Baby / 26
I keep it a secret from my family and friends because I not only get a rush from doing something so naughty but also because they are against the fact that I am a bisexual male. They want me to settle down and have kids but I'm not interested. I just want to have fun and make others happy. Is that too much to ask? I'm really young and I have my whole life ahead of me. I'm going to live it how I want.
2023-01-14
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Sugar Baby / 27
My friends know that I’m into being a sugar baby, but unless my daddy wants to take things further or let people know then it’s not fair to tell people. What I like to do is fine for me to tell people, but who I like to? That’s a secret for me and daddy until I’m allowed to tell 😇 it’s not necessarily a relationship at the start, but it’s our little secret
2023-01-14
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Sugar Baby / 25
Yes I do hold it as a secret! I don’t want my mom to know that I don’t as well as I want in life and I think many ‘normal’ persons whould think that I was odd.. I don’t want to feel like an utsider! I think that to have a sugar daddy is so much more then just to get money from an older man. Like, a older man can teach me about life and how to live my life!
2023-01-14
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Sugar Baby / 26
I keep my “sugaring” a secret because both parties have to be opened to the idea. Perhaps the sugar daddy has many sugar Babies and doesn’t want anyone to find out about each other? Honestly it’s all about privacy in a nutshell. Each person has to respect the wishes of the other person. If one person disagrees then the relationship would be kept a secret.
2023-01-14
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Sugar Baby / 27
Yes, I think it’s nice to keet it secret unless both parties agree that discretion isn't important to either of them. It makes it more exciting and fun The respectful and polite thing to do, in my opinion, is to keep the relationship low-key unless it becomes serious. It’s fun to try new things and be adventurous not everyone wants that to be broadcast to everyone straight away!
2023-01-14
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Sugar Baby / 48
I believe that most daddies have families and they wouldn't need to be a daddy if they wanted everyone to know their every move. I am looking for someone to show me some fun and love at times to make my days different. Sometime someone can come in your life and make you realize that things can be different and the more secretly you have to be and it make the different things just that much ore special.
2023-01-14
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Sugar Baby / 42
I plan too keep it secret. For one it's my business alone what I do as an adult. Two, yes I am married, but so incredibly unhappy. My husband refuses to leave and I really cant do much without him since we have children and no sitter. A sugar daddy would possibly allow me to be free of him and take care of my own bills so he can leave and we can survive without him.
2023-01-14
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Sugar Baby / 26
I keep my sugaring a secret because there is a lot of bad reputation put on the lifestyle as if it isnt a consensual relationship between two adults. I do not want to be labled as a "gold digging brat" when its not like sugar baby's don't keep up their own side of the relationship. Most daddys want other people to be in the dark about their relationship with their baby as well.
2023-01-14
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Sugar Baby / 45
Yes I would keep his secret because I think it's important to have secrets in between both of use because that builds Trust and loyalty I don't like nobody putting me on blast and tell him I secret so I asked the same in return I keep your secret if you keep mind that's just the way the world got to work it's all about Arrangements passion and understanding
2023-01-14
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Sugar Baby / 45
Wow the reason to keep it a secret not only because it's nobody's business but you and your daddy but because family members and so-called friends could be very judgmental people like to mistake sugaring with prostitution and be hating because they don't understand every woman wants to be taken care of even the working woman no woman wants to pay for their own clothes and their own food out of their own pocket but they won't admit to it
2023-01-14
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Sugar Baby / 30
I would keep it secret primarily for the respect towards his person because maybe that person has an image to take care of or a reputation and I do not intend to harm anyone, much less commit it, for that reason it would be very good to keep it secret if the person he wants it and in case of not wanting to keep it secret his decision would be respectable and he would accept it.
2023-01-14
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Sugar Baby / 26
I do because there are so many people who wouldn’t understand. Only a few people in my life know that I want to be a sugar baby and I want to be taken care of in life and not worry about weather or not I can spend the three dollars on gas or if I should buy food with it instead. If I didn’t keep it a secret I know the sort of backlash I would get from my family or friends who wouldn’t understand the desire I have to be taken care of.
2023-01-14
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Sugar Baby / 38
It has to be a secret unless both parties come to an agreement to be public about their arrangement I see where most of these men are married As a sugar baby I want to be is peace and calm not his problem so this lifestyle will continue to be a secret untill he decides otherwise ! Sometimes the best relationships and friendships are the ones kept in secret
2023-01-14
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Sugar Baby / 26
Well I would never talk about it to my family or to my friends in school. But only one of my best friends knows about it, that makes it safe to me as she always knows when I’m about to get a new date, where and when it is. We just never know what can happen and I prefer to get at least this than to be in trouble for anything. About discretion, I don’t need to be, it’s up on my partner.
2023-01-14
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Sugar Baby / 29
I like to keep it discreet unless it becomes something more serious. When I enter into a Sugar baby/ Sugar daddy relationship I'm really only looking for it to become serious but it needs to be discussed between both parties. Discression is more important to some than others, I just believe what goes on in my private life is no ones business but my own.
2023-01-18
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Sugar Baby / 53
Yes it should be kept to yourself..people tend to be judgmental for one,not knowing your situation. Then there's also you don't know whobmay know him or her. This is a small world of course. SD..may want a discreet relationship cause of his job or personal life at home. Me personally it's my buisness and my buisness alone..this close to you can become envious.
2023-01-20
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Sugar Baby / 26
I keep the fact that I’m a sugar baby secret because I just don’t want anyone to know. I also don’t want to be judge by the decisions that I decided to make so that’s the first reason why I keep it a secret. I feel like an SB/SD relationship should be very discreet and private because most of these men are married and you don’t want to be look at as a homewrecker etc so I believe in respecting each other private lives and staying very low-key in a situation like this unless you and your SD decided to make it known to the people that are in y’all lives than that’s fine too. But for me, I rather it be my little secret!
2023-01-23
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Sugar Baby / 37
Yes I prefer to keep my sugar daddy a secret, he may have a situation on the side that he isn't willing to completely lose and I have my own personal reasons as to why aww would have to keep "us" a secret. I wouldn't want to mess up my relationship with my sugar daddy based on not being about to be in public, somethings are better left unseen. Also most sugar daddies are very successful so I would not want to put his person life in any kind of jeperdy.
2023-01-23
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Sugar Baby / 30
yes and no depending on the status of our situationship . not all sugar daddies want everyone to know what they do with their spare time of who they spend it with . people are judgmental, while others just want you to be happy , even tho your happiness is all that matters . if you’re open with the people around you or even yourself for that matter then secrecy isn’t necessary , but if you’d rather your personal life be private , then there’s no need to go public .
2023-01-29
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Sugar Baby / 30
That’s both to say. I dont mind telling people or keeping it a secret. If you want to be lowkey about it or that I call you just a friend or even my husband. I will be okey with everything, because it’s just a name, and if people know it or not I don’t mind because I don’t care about what others think. It’s about the relationship that you have with eachother and if both want it a secret or publicly thats to us. If we both are happy about what we have I dont care about what others know.
2023-01-30
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Sugar Baby / 27
Yes.. there is still stigma surrounding it and it is something I would like to keep my family out of. Certainly, there are close friends that I don’t mind telling, but you must consider the feelings of your sugar daddy/baby as well. If the other party doesnt want to disclose your relationship, or have stated that they want a discreet affair, it is only respectful for you to honour that.
2023-01-30
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Sugar Baby / 27
I’ve told coworkers and friends that I trust about my interest to be a sugar baby and they’re all supportive of me. I’m a very open person, being a sugar baby/daddy doesn’t sound like a negative thing to me. But I also don’t go around telling everyone I meet that I’m a sugar baby. If my sugar daddy wanted to be discreet then I’d obviously respect his choice and not tell anyone who he is.
2023-01-30
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Sugar Baby / 49
I wouldn't announce my lifestyle to the world but people that are close to me would be aware of it. I never make choices that I'm going to be ashamed of. I don't see having a sugar daddy as something to be ashamed of. It would in fact make me feel confident and sexy and in control. I'd be proud of what I'm doing and proud that someone saw me worthy of being my sugar daddy.
2023-01-30
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Sugar Baby / 37
For the most part, yes I keep it secret. I have a couple of friends that are my emergency contacts that always know where I’m going to be and with whom, so they know what the situation is. Luckily they are supportive as long as I am safe and happy. This is discussed in advance with my Daddy, and it a firm boundary for me. If a Daddy is adamant about no one knowing where I am, I’m not comfortable are him.
2023-02-03
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Sugar Baby / 35
Definitely yes! I wouldn't want my family to know that I'm looking into this type of lifestyle. They are strict Christians. But still basically refuse to be there for me so... And most of the friends I have would be super judgy about it too. And if he's married, that's a liability. It's just easier for everyone to not know. I just want to be happy and not feel shame for how I'm going about it.
2023-02-09
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Sugar Baby / 26
Sugaring should be secret anyways. No one needs to know what you do besides you and who you’re with. It causes too much drama that can end your relationship as soon as it started. Respect is key in this lifestyle. You never want to compromise your position to the outside public especially to your SD/SM’s friends and/or business associates. Don’t make things harder than it needs to be. You’re there for a mutual enjoyment both two not three or four, etc.
2023-02-10
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Sugar Baby / 31
I don't believe in posting my entire life through social media accounts. And relationships I see as a private matter. If it got more serious and in depth I wouldn't feel the need to tell anyone the details of how we had met as I don't think it's anyone else's business but our own. I'm quite a strong minded, independent person and to show that sometimes I need someone to lean on would to be something I'd like to advertise.
2023-02-13
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Sugar Baby / 27
I keep it secret because 1. I can't have my mom knowing, she swears I'll be a prostitute 2. Social is a fucking bitch, and it's always out to get women doing "non feminist" things, for example, being a sugar baby 3.I like the fact I live a double life, it feels more exhilarating for me. It's makes me feel alive knowing that people will pay to have my company.
2023-02-14
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Sugar Baby / 29
I'm discreet in everything I do in life, so naturally this has been a well kept secret for a while. It's not so much about any potential unwanted backlash from others so much as wanting to keep my life intimate and to myself. And I was raised in a Mexican household. My family finds out about my sugaring life? That's a mess. In short, I don't flaunt it, and I (usually) don't go out of my way to hide it. I just don't kiss and tell.
2023-02-15
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Sugar Baby / 28
First and foremost I would prefer a more secret relationship. My friends and family don’t know what I do . I would like to keep it that way . What I do in my spare time , I don’t really feel comfortable sharing with them . This is new for me as well so sometimes even I can get overwhelmed by this whole thing . Also it depends on your SD . He may have a wife and kids or he might be the face of his company . Things like that need to be considered!
2023-02-16
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Sugar Baby / 31
Yes, I believe it should be kept secret unless both parties agree that discretion isn't important to either of them. I also feel like some people want to keep their sugar a secret because of religious families or friends. I mean I would keep my sugar daddy a secret unless he wanted me not to but the way my family is I would have to keep things minimum
2023-02-19
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Sugar Baby / 37
For now, I do. But with my career, it is not a wise choice for me to be open about my life as an SB. There are many who do not and would not approve of this choice, and while I don't care what they think, as a business owner I need to keep my private life separate. However, this is not to say that I will not in the future be opposed to being open about it. I am in no way ashamed of my choice to become an SB, in fact I feel quite empowered in doing it. I know the value I bring to the table and there's not a person out there who can make me feel less than.
2023-02-22
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Sugar Baby / 30
I keep it a secret because my family would never understand and I do not want to deal with their harsh, overbearing judgement. My (predominantly female, predominantly single) family members would never get it. They pride themselves on standing alone, without the help of a man, to raise children, support one another, and get through life. And that’s beautiful in a way...but I don’t just want to “get through life.” I want to enjoy mine! And if being a Sugar baby is a part of that journey, so be it. I keep it a secret to keep the peace. The only people who know are my sister and best friend, and they still love me just the same! 😊 I’m new to this and haven’t had much experience yet, but I always answer as best I can!! Another reason I would keep it a secret is that I wouldn’t want people jumping to conclusions about what being a sugar baby means. Many think SB are glorified whores when that’s nowhere near true. Each relationship is unique and fulfills needs of both people and aren’t limited to (or even nevessarily required to be) sexual relationships. It’s two adults coming together to help each other out consensually and mutually, not much different from any other relationship!
2023-02-22