The inspiration behind this post has to do with the several messages I’ve received that have asked something along the lines of, “My sugar daddy is a new one, I like spankings, but sometimes he spanks me and I don’t understand why and it makes me sad.”
I get it, as a new Daddy spanking can be a tough area to get your head around, so I’ll go over some general rules I have for spankings and maybe this will help.
Do not mix spankings and sex
First, and MOST IMPORTANTLY, do not mix spankings and sex. I think this is the biggest issue that new Daddies will run into. A new Daddy sees spankings as foreplay or as a role-play scenario. If you’re going to be a Daddy in Dd/lg, you have to learn how to separate your Daddy responsibilities and sex.
Personally, I don’t give spankings anywhere near “sex time”. That’s not to say you can’t smack their butt while you’re having sex, just that punishments should be kept clearly defined and separate. I usually bend the little girl over my knee, pull her panties down around her knees, give her the punishment she’s earned and then get back to Daddy business when I’m done.
Make rules first
Next, it’s always best to establish clearly defined rules. If there is something that you don’t want her to do, then tell her, tell her any additional rules and tell her the punishment. I usually like to give a grace period with new rules. Sometimes princesses need a freebie.
She should never be bent over your knee wondering, “What did I do? Why does he hate me?” and so on. If you want to keep her to an eating and bathroom schedule, limit her contact with other men, limit the clothes she can wear or whatever your thing is, she needs to be made aware of it ahead of time.
Enforce the rules
Which brings me to my last point. If you have established clear and concise rules, you need to enforce them. The rules need to be enforced every time (except if you’ve given her a one-time pass), with consistent or gradually increasing punishments, no exceptions.
I’m not in love with this example, but here goes: Think about if you smacked or kicked your dog every third time he bit someone. In that case, you’re just an asshole beating a badly trained dog. See the parallels?
The purpose of a punishment is to mold and shape behavior, not to get your dick hard. You’re taking a lot on as a new daddy and it is hard, but you have to think this stuff through.
And if she’s into mixing sex and punishment as much as you, just drop the DD/lg schtick and be a god ole fashioned masochist, there’s no shame in it.
Well, that was long-winded, but it’s a post that Daddies been chewing on for a while because it comes up in the inbox a lot. Speaking of which, I’m still working through my inbox; my message counter is permanently stuck on +99 now. There are a lot of naughty little girls that want Daddies advice or to show Daddy their princess part, which is both welcome.