Be a Sugar Baby and Feminist at the Same Time

371 Answers

Sugar Baby / 23

Not contradictory at all. I 100% consider myself a feminist and respect for women is something that is really close to my heart - and that’s respect for ALL women, including those who are sugar babies or would like extra financial help from, perhaps, an older man/women in exchange for affection and a listening ear. Feminism is about all types of women, not just the ones that are socially ‘acceptable’.

2017-11-14 23:04:16

Sugar Baby / 21

Of course you can be a sugar baby and a feminist, you’re using your sexuality as a means to provide, that doesn’t demean you as a feminist if anything it empowers us as feminist sugar babies because we are wanting to accomplish more - be ambitious as a woman should ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

2017-11-15 11:28:04

Sugar Baby / 23

I’m a feminist. But, I’m also a sugar baby. People will try to shame and talk down on anyone who is doing better than them. I’m independent! I have a part-time job, I go to school, and I try to have a social life whenever I can. Being a sugar baby is something I chose to be and there’s nothing wrong with that. I’m still an independent woman, but if I need to depend on “daddy,” sometimes I will. No shame about it. It’s all about being who you are and proud of it.

2017-11-15 13:08:05

Sugar Baby / 27

Yes, I consider myself a feminist, and I think my sugar daddy does too! Feminist means equality and recognizing that your sex shouldn’t dictace your life, may thatbe career choices, pay, privileges and happiness. Being a sugar baby doesn’t mean I don’t respect female, it means I wanted to be a sugar baby and didn’t let mysoginist make me feel like it makes me any less of a woman :)

2017-11-15 16:19:00

Sugar Baby / 23

I am an intersectional feminist. My intersection (black woman) is the second most marginalized intersection in my country. While I hear that feminism negating sugaring, I believe the opposite. My marginalization as a black woman in thr US has set me up with strong boundaries, good intuition, and high standards for sugaring. Also, weaponizing male privilege to be mutually beneficial in a dynamic creates equity, a more ethical and intersectionally fair than the idea of providing equality. It gives femmes power to standarize their boundaries and make their worth tangiable.

2017-11-16 02:00:33

Sugar Baby / 21

I do consider myself a feminist, but not in the trivial free the nipple kind of way. I believe women should be treated equally with men. Being a sugar baby does not compromise my beliefs or make me feel any less like an independent woman. There’s a song called woman by Diana Gordon and in it she says “ god gave you the answer when he gave you the woman, I know “you the man” but don’t forget where you come from” and it’s probably one of my favorite empowering songs.

2017-11-16 03:43:02

Sugar Baby / 39

No I am just me, not better then or less then the next in some ways and not so in other ways. He/she may be better at something then me doesn't matter cause I am female because there is and always will be something j am better then him/her. If'm treated wrong that's on them not on me because I am still goin to be me. To try to hold me back just makes me go harder at what I want so that I achieve it and claim it without those that doubted me.

2017-11-16 10:43:23

Sugar Baby / 25

. I do consider myself a feminist; I believe men and women of all backgrounds should be politically and socially equal. I believe being a feminist and a sugar baby is not contradictory at all, and I believe being a feminist has helped me with being a sugarbaby, it has given me confidence, and helped me understand the way the world is and how I can make it benefit myself

2017-11-16 15:08:33

Sugar Baby / 21

feminism has nothing to do with being a sugar baby.i believe that everybody should have equal rights, so in a sense it could be related. this would be because sugar baby/sugar daddy relationships should be unjudged. men and women deserve to be treated equal and deserve to go unjudged for what they like and/or believe in.i would call myself a proud feminist, minus the fact that there is a negative connotation around the word.

2017-11-16 17:12:12

Sugar Baby / 21

I do consider myself a feminist and I believe that everybody should see themselves as feminist. And no, I don't think that being a sugar baby contradicts my belief in feminism. The definition is equal rights for all sexes and being a sugar baby does not take away or oppress any of my rights and people who think so are clearly blinded and need to rethink their opinions

2017-11-17 04:13:01

Sugar Baby / 32

Feminist, is a label. It's a label created to describe a certain type of woman. This label that people are attaching to themselves nine times out of 10 they don't even understand what they are truly representing . Who started this feminist movement Amber Rose? A female who was known for "falling on every dick she walks pass" . In my feminine yes am I a real woman yes do I believe that women should get paid equally yes am I a part of the feminist movement Hell no. It is destroying the future relationships of our children. It is devaluating what men and women are supposed to be. It will ultimately be the cause of so many divorces. Am I a woman yes should women get paid equally yes do they get paid equally know am I a feminist? Hell no

2017-11-17 11:55:14

Sugar Baby / 31

consiser myself a feminist, and it's not contradictory to be a sugar baby and want equal rights to men. Women have fought so hard to be able to do the same jobs as men and to vote, just to be pushed backwards with each step. Having equal rights means being able to make your own choices, sugaring included. Noone bats and eye at the men looking for Sugars so why should they bat an eye at the sugars looking for men.

2017-11-17 12:10:34

Sugar Baby / 22

Personally I don't like the label of being a feminist as it comes with unnecessary baggage regarding the amount of damage control that the feminist community has to deal with due to some members of the community ruining things. I like the ideology but I don't agree with everything that a feminist should supposedly agree with, hence I don't use the label. As someone trying to view this from an objective point of view, there is no doubt in my mind that you can simultaneously be a feminist and a sugar baby. If being a sugar baby makes you feel empowered and it harms no one, then who is going to disagree?

2017-11-17 14:50:54

Sugar Baby / 28

Every woman who believes in equality between the genders should consider herself a feminist; so yes I consider myself one. But putting aside the gender dynamics for a second I would like to focus on the feminism that sometimes turns into subtle internalized misogyny. Those women who claimed they support other women but at some point judge another woman’s life style/choices. I consider myself a feminist especially because I stand up against that type of mentality. I support any woman holding her own and doing what she can to get by. I do not judge because I am not living her life and do not know her struggle. I simply make my own choices and do not allow anyone else to inflcune mine.

2017-11-17 19:41:01

Sugar Baby / 27

I do believe I am a feminist and am very proud to say so.. I empower my rights for equality and take charge in my own life and would never do differently. So sugaring should not be an issue at the slightest. Especially when it’s something I choose to do and choose to spend my time doing. There should be no issue and no conflicts between feminism and sugaring whatsoever.

2017-11-17 21:43:51

Sugar Baby / 22

I consider myself a feminist; I think everyone, including women, deserves the means to equal rights. Being a sugar baby shouldn’t define feminism in the same way that being a stripper doesn’t mean someone doesn’t respect themselves. I think being a sugar baby highlights the weakness of the patriarchy. Think about it—I’m getting paid by men just to exist.

2017-11-18 19:31:11

Sugar Baby / 22

I am a feminist. I beleive in equality of the sexes and women taking charge in their own life. That us exactly what a sugar baby does. Sugar babies know what they want and go after it even if theyre female and use their femininity and beauty as a way of making money for themselves so if anything I think its much more empowering than contradicting feminism.

2017-11-19 09:27:26

Sugar Baby / 28

I consider myself to be a feminist, and feminism is about allowing women the freedom and choice to do what they want without being judged on it. And that's exactly what a advocate in sugarlife, that no one is judged, that everyone is seen as an adult with their own values and desires, and we accept and encourage that every step of the way. Feminism isn't about hating men, but about accepting women.

2017-11-19 12:42:48

Sugar Baby / 24

i consider myself a feminist. i believe that women and men are equal just that society has a different view on that. i choose to use the advantages i have been given as a woman to take care of myself and enrich my life. i can justify this because i have the right to give myself away at a pace and time that i desire. i am in control of what is shared and to whom it is shared to so i am able to continue seeing this as a reasonable act.

2017-11-19 14:30:26

Sugar Baby / 28

Well; I'm a feminist🙄 as a feminist i should say We decide our own destiny ; We raise men and give them confidence, we have the power of controlling them. I'm here to teach them how they should treat with womem and melt their hearts just by giving them love. it's my power. feminine power🙄 feminism is all about femininity 🙄 and femininity is not just about dressing feminine. it's about woman mind and the way she thinks and act and behave.

2017-11-20 10:53:48

Sugar Baby / 27

What people call "feminist" nowadays is convoluted. The actual academic term of feminism has been twisted by a lot of people (among them, many extreme SJWs) and now, people think to be feminist means to hate men. In reality, feminism is defending a woman's right to choose. And if a woman chooses to be a sugar baby, then she should be welcome to do so. The only thing not feminist is judging and slutshaming a woman for making that decision.

2017-11-20 21:44:48

Sugar Baby / 22

I am definitely a feminist. I fully believe that men and women are equal and should be equal in society in general. Being in a sugar relationship doesn’t take that away. It is a private matter that a woman and man are both agreeing to be in. As long as it’s consentual and it’s what both parties want, there is nothing wrong with it. Feminism is the right for women and men to do as they please without hurting the other sex or being hurt for their own personal choices

2017-11-21 08:35:41

Sugar Baby / 27

I consider myself a feminist because all that means is believing and enabling both the equity and equality between men and women. Being a sugar baby does not combat that belief. Not all women are sugar babies just like not all women have comparable demographics otherwise, so to be a sugar baby isn’t really contradicting to also being a feminist because it is simply another layer of a woman’s demographics of which all should be considered within feminism.

2017-11-21 17:25:28

Sugar Baby / 24

I do consider myself a feminest because to me, I do not degrade myself for a sugar daddy. Im merely just expressing my sexualty and confidence. And if I like being a sugar baby then so be it. I do not take insults or degrading. Why shouldnt a woman be able to express herself if men do it also? My body is my body and if I choose to share it then it shouldnt matter to anybody else

2017-11-21 19:51:17

Sugar Baby / 23

I do consider myself a feminist because I believe men and women should be equal and have equal rights. No one is forcing me to be a sugar baby. I decided that on my own. And if I don't have a sugar daddy I can still be dependent on my own but I choose to have someone pay for my bills and things I want because I like expensive things and I can't buy that on my own lol

2017-11-22 00:37:26

Sugar Baby / 22

When I first mentioned my desire of being a sugar baby to my best friends, one of them wondered why I subject myself to that as she thought that being a sugar baby was degrading and misogynistic. The entire basis of feminism and the feminist movement is, in a nutshell, equality for everyone regardless of religion, sex, race, sexual orientation, culture, etc. One of the mainaspects of feminism, though, is women fighting to be seen as equal to men. So, yes, on the surface it does sound like an impossibility to be a sugar baby, sugar daddy, or sugar mommy while also being a feminist but that’s actually incorrect. But in reality, being in a suger relationship involves taking ownership and pride in your natural instincts and personaliry traits.

2017-11-22 03:42:31

Sugar Baby / 27

I am a massive feminist. For so many years women's bodies and minds have been controlled by men. It's now for us to decide how to use them. If that means using them to get financial gain from our oppressors then even better. I truly believe that in the baby-daddy relationship it is the baby who holds the power, not the daddy. I feel powerful controlling someone else's purse strings

2017-11-22 10:23:48

Sugar Baby / 21

I'm definitely a feminitist. I believe in the equality and equity of ALL genders. It certainly isn't contradictory to be a sugar baby at the same time. It's my preference and choice, and I can also be a strong, equal woman at the same time. I go to school and work very hard, and I don't need anyone to help with that. But if I want someone to spoil me and take care of me that's on me

2017-11-22 15:11:28

Sugar Baby / 23

Feminism is all about empowerment! A true feminist believes that a woman's value is not linked to her sexuality. I don't think they contradict each other st all. A good feminist would look at a sugar baby and say, "if that's what you like, good for you", regardless of their own personal beliefs. I stand so strongly for a woman's right to choose her path, that means if a woman wants to be in the workforce, be a house wife, or be a sugar baby, that is her choice.

2017-11-22 18:37:25

Sugar Baby / 28

I do consider myself a feminist and I don't consider being a sugar baby contradictory to feminism at all. Feminism is about women, every woman, and all women no matter what their choices are. Its about supporting and uplifting all women and who they want to be. Housewife, surgeon, entertainer, author, doesn't matter. I don't see why people find it contridictary at all.

2017-11-22 19:12:49

Sugar Baby / 23

Being a feminist, which I am, does not at all inflict with being a sugar baby. Being a feminist is to fight for equality. It doesn’t mean I can’t get help from a man, building up my own business. Sugar daddy’s should mentor their baby and help her finance schooling etc. it is a business in itself if you wish to call it that because the baby’s provide a service. It is like any other job but you might end up with your own business or a great relationship because you knew how to use your feminine side to your advantage and were strong enough to follow through until you got what you wanted. It doesn’t picture inequality in any way.

2017-11-23 06:40:05

Sugar Baby / 31

I'm a PRO!! Defenetly i'm a femenist women and if i want to be a sugar baby i will be one!Sow,we a have the same and exactly rights in our community,city,country and world.if i choose to be a sugarbaby it's only my problem and nobody else..I can be what i want to be.how many womens fight for our rights in world's history and change it for us?! Peace

2017-11-23 07:39:39

Sugar Baby / 27

I do consider myself a feminist, however, I am also a very traditional woman. I would love to play a traditional role as a housewife and mother and I would not mind my husband being the provider. Yet I also am aspiring to have success in my own career and I will also want to be respected and loved as as equal. That is my idea of the perfect relationship.

2017-11-23 07:50:12

Sugar Baby / 21

Being a sugar baby and being a feminist aren’t mutually exclusive, feminism is all about equality and letting women choose whatever path in life they want. A woman with her own business is just as powerful and just as strong as a woman with a sugar daddy. I’ve always been a feminist and will continue to stand by equality amongst genders, and being a sugar baby doesn’t negate that.

2017-11-23 11:15:02

Sugar Baby / 36

I dont identify as a feminist simply because half of the time if I read something they're currently debating, I don't agree with their point of view. I believe in some equality, yes but the natural order of things was for the man to be a leader, protector, and provider. To me, feminism directly contradicts that in many ways. Personally, I would wager that a feminist would even disagree with this lifestyle because it would require clearly defined roles for each person in the relationship

2017-11-23 18:03:14

Sugar Baby / 21

I 100% consider myself to be a feminist and no I don’t think being a sugar baby and a feminist is contradictory. In fact I believe they go hand in hand, feminism is all about women empowering and encouraging women to accept themselves and each other for who they are and not take any shit from any man or woman who believes otherwise. I believe sugar babies are the best examples of feminists out there, we are women who know exactly what we want and exactly how to get it.

2017-11-23 21:38:57

Sugar Baby / 21

Feminism is about self-empowerment and embracing your own sexuality or lack therof. Being a sugar baby is a proud act of feminism for some women, including myself, who feel that female sexuality has been oppressed and misinterpreted for too long. It’s being brave enough to say, “yes I am a woman, yes I enjoy sex, and yes I will look for it.” The greatest act of feminism is accepting yourself and being a sugar baby is the best way to do that for some people.

2017-11-23 21:50:48

Sugar Baby / 22

Yes, I am a feminist and no it has nothing to do with being a sugar baby and we shouldn't get hate on that either. Being a sugar baby doesn't mean I can't be a feminist because I offer myself to people. Feminism is wishing for equal rights for both genders. I know my worth, I do not consider myself an object at all so I don't see what it has to do with feminism.

2017-11-23 21:59:52

Sugar Baby / 22

I am a feminist and I think being a feminist is about letting women do what they want without judgement. Being a sugar baby isn't contradictory because it's your choice. If you want to have a sugar baby relationship, you can because no one should be able to judge you for it. It doesn't make you less of a feminist to have that kind of relationship .

2017-11-23 22:04:22

Sugar Baby / 21

I think that being a feminist is taking control of yourself and not allowing a man to decide for you. It's your life and just like a man can do what ever he wants and not look bad it should be the same for a women, if I want to be paid for my companionship it's my choice, I'm the one agreeing to an arrangement. I think the only time you should question if your going agenst women's rights and being feminist is if your being controlled And manipulated into doing something for a man. But as long as it's your life and you feel free and in control it's as feminist as it can get. Rmeber, feminist are not anti-men it's believing in equal rights for both genders.

2017-11-24 01:33:04

Sugar Baby / 28

I believe in equal rights and opportunity for women, but I'm old fashioned. If my man wants me in the kitchen or to open the door when he gets off in just a robe, guess what? If it makes him happy and I'm happy to see him happy, then daddy will stay happy. Point, blank, period. Feminism is about women having the opportunity to do whatever they want. RIGHT? So if your happy in the office... 👌If you happy in the kitchen👌

2017-11-24 07:24:41

Sugar Baby / 23

Hell yeah I'm a feminist - it means social equality and ergo, the choice to do what you're free to do. If that involves freedom to be a sugar baby then that's a byproduct of the choice that we receive through feminism. Also, just because you may be submissive in your personal life doesn't mean that you can't support other women and help fight for their equality too, more globally. It's not a contradiction at all.

2017-11-24 09:15:41

Sugar Baby / 23

Considering that being a Sugar baby and a feminist as two different things is part of the problem. The way a person lives their life does not diminish them as a person or contradict their ideology. A man uses his oppressive power to control what he wants so that he can get on top. It should not be seen as a negative thing if for some reason their oppressive power turns out to benefit the people they are oppressing.

2017-11-24 10:56:40

Sugar Baby / 22

I'm a feminist. But beeing a feminist means to believe in equality of genders, and nothing else. So guys should be able to do whatever they want, and girls should do whatever they want and not beeing held down by the gender. It means freedom, whatever you do with it. If you decide to become a sugar baby go for it girl, if you decide to be whoever you want, do it. This is exactly what it is about. Freedom and nothing else.

2017-11-24 12:28:53

Sugar Baby / 23

I do consider myself an intersectional feminist, and I really don’t think being a sugar baby contradicts that. We are still our own people with our own desires, goals, and problems no matter what. If anything, by managing our own pay, hours, customers, etc. we are empowering ourselves and improving our lifestyle on our own terms and by our own means. 😉

2017-11-24 13:57:35

Sugar Baby / 20

I do consider myself a feminist. I don't think it's contradictory to be a sugar baby and a feminist because feminism is the fight for women to have equal rights including their choices. I do not however support the whole "men objectify women too much" stance. We all objectify each other and in our own ways. I'm proud to be both feminist and sugarbb

2017-11-24 14:15:28

Sugar Baby / 33

I do agree with the statement of being a feminist, because it means that I agree on everyone having the same rights and opportunities, equally responsable of their lives. So by any means it is related to be or not a sugar baby, to me is way beyond that, because I have the right to be and make the decision for myself disregarding that the sugar baby is male or female.

2017-11-24 17:17:45

Sugar Baby / 21

I consider myself a femenist, and I fully support anyone who decides to do any kind of work in the sex industry. Feminism is about allowing everyone to be the themselves equally, and not be judged for it. So, who am I to judge? Someone is still a feminist if they strip, someone is still a feminism if they do porn, someone is still a feminist if they’re a sugar baby. It’s about being yourself, and owning who you are. It’s your body, your rules, and it’s only up to you how you want to use it.

2017-11-25 00:03:59

Sugar Baby / 23

Yes I do consider myself a feminist. I care about fighting for all women and doing whatever makes them happy. Being a feminist is about empowering women. Sugar babies are women who are just trying to get ahead. We are still strong, independent women. Having a sugar daddy is not degrading the woman, I think it's the exact opposite. A sugar daddy is someone who lifts a lot of woman, he shows her her potential and gives her what she needs.

2017-11-25 09:33:31

Sugar Baby / 30

I wouldn’t say a feminist but but I believe women can do anything they want as much as men. I don’t think it’s a contradiction being a sugar baby and a feminist because being a feminist is being able to live your life how you want to and being able to do what you want when you want to and not being called a hoe or gold digger and sleep with any man you want. I believe women should do whatever they want and sleep with whom ever they want. I am pro women!

2017-11-25 12:21:42