{"id":957,"date":"2017-06-22T12:15:02","date_gmt":"2017-06-22T16:15:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.sugardaddy.world\/blog\/?p=957"},"modified":"2019-01-15T03:58:39","modified_gmt":"2019-01-15T08:58:39","slug":"dont-victim-tmi-comes-allowance-talk","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.sugardaddy.world\/blog\/dont-victim-tmi-comes-allowance-talk\/","title":{"rendered":"Don\u2019t Be a Victim of Tmi When It Comes to the Allowance Talk!"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Have you ever gotten a message from or talked with a \u201cwealthy\u201d POT who tells you that he wants to \u201ctake care of you\u201d and, in so doing, asks you a lot of questions about \u201chow well you are doing financially\u201d or about your monthly expenses?  Your first reaction may very well be, \u201cwow, this is great! This guy wants to know all about my finances because he wants to offer a large sugar baby allowance!\u201d  You want to tell him about your tuition, your loans, the bills that you need to pay, your rent and all the other details about your financial life, anticipating that his offer is going to meet all of those needs and more.<\/p>\n

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I\u2019d think twice about doing that if I were you!<\/p>\n

I often say that \u201ccommunication is key\u201d when it comes to talking about money, and I always encourage SBs to be confident and direct when the subject is brought up. However, there is such a thing as sharing Too Much Information when it comes to the allowance talk and, baby, TMI is never a good thing!<\/p>\n

More often than not, a POT has ulterior motives when he invites you to share the details of your financial situation with him.  In other words, he\u2019s not asking you about the subject because \u201che wants to take care of your financial needs\u201d or because he is genuinely concerned about whether you are making ends meet!  He\u2019s doing it for selfish, not selfless, reasons!  He wants to \u201cget a better deal\u201d; he is not interested in helping you achieve your financial goals!  Does that surprise you?<\/p>\n

Here are some of the reasons why POTs (and even SDs) want you to provide TMI when it comes to your finances:<\/p>\n

1. They want to find out how desperate you are for money.<\/p>\n

When you are contacted by a POT, the first thing you want to know \u2013 even before whether he\u2019s good looking, lol \u2013 is how much money he has.  You want to know this because it helps you determine what he will be willing to pay for an allowance!  And, that helps you figure out how much you should request.  Well, many guys do the same thing with you!  They want to know how much debt you have, what your bills are, what financial obligations you have, all to determine how desperate you are! They figure that, if you are desperate and broke enough, you will be more inclined to accept what they have to offer.  Further, they will use your desperation against you by dangling the \u201cpossibility\u201d of a large allowance in front of you and, in so doing, they hope that you will let the mere prospect of making some money cloud your judgment!<\/p>\n

2. They try to convince you that your allowance expectation is too high.<\/p>\n

Remember this:  knowledge is power.  When you give him information relating to your finances, you are giving him knowledge and, as a result, his power increases and yours decreases.  If you lay out your balance sheet for him to pore over, he will use that information to beat you over the head.  He will challenge and question your expenses and argue that your allowance expectation is too high because you can cut this expense, minimize that expense, and so on.  That is a classic negotiation strategy and you should not fall for it!  You don\u2019t want the allowance to talk to be about the entries in your checkbook! Instead, you want it to be about the value you bring to the table!  If you are debating about your expenses, your chances of getting the allowance you want decrease dramatically!<\/p>\n

3. They want to take on the role of your \u201cfinancial advisor\u201d and will try to be involved with every decision you make regarding money.<\/p>\n

Some of these guys actually think that they are \u201cdoing you a favor\u201d by using the TMI you provide to become your \u201cfinancial advisor\u201d!  The POT will give you unsolicited \u201cadvice\u201d on how you should spend the allowance he is willing to pay or actually paying once he becomes your SD and criticizes you if you decide to \u201csplurge\u201d on something rather than paying down some other bill.  In other words, this type of guy is nosy and annoying as fuck!  Do you really want to be second-guessed on how you manage your money?  Well, you will be if you tell these guys about your business!<\/p>\n

4. They want to use the information to get inside your head and manipulate you.<\/p>\n

Remember that I said \u201cknowledge is power\u201d up above? Well, that maxim applies here as well.  A guy who knows the details about your finances can use that to get inside your head and manipulate you.  He will be able to figure out your financial \u201ctriggers\u201d and \u201chot buttons\u201d, and believe me, will pull those triggers and push those buttons every chance he gets!  He will play to your insecurities, heighten your fears and keep you under his control. He will make you feel guilty or inadequate.  Much like a naked selfie that an angry ex-boyfriend posts on the internet, once you give a POT (or SD) that sort of information, you can never get it back. Be careful with the information you share!<\/p>\n

Here is another way to look at this issue:  Ultimately, there is no reason to share information with a POT regarding how well or poorly you are doing financially.  If his stated goal is \u201cto take care of you\u201d, he can achieve that laudatory sentiment without knowing one damn thing about your finances!<\/p>\n

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Let me finish with a practical tip to avoid a nosy POTs questions.  If reacts to your request for X dollars as an allowance by saying, \u201cWhy do you need that much money?  What is your financial situation like?\u201d, tell him:  Look, my dear, my allowance requirement is not based on my financial need or lack thereof.  Instead, I base it on the value of my companionship.  And, $X per month is what my companionship is worth.  Believe me, that is a deal!  If you are smart enough to meet my expectation, you will have the good fortune of finding out for yourself just how much more I\u2019m really worth.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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For more reading: How to Get More Allowance from Sugar Daddy<\/a><\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Have you ever gotten a message from or talked with a \u201cwealthy\u201d POT who tells you that he wants to \u201ctake care of you\u201d and, in so doing, asks you a lot of questions about \u201chow well you are doing financially\u201d or about your monthly expenses?  Your first reaction may very well be, \u201cwow, this …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":10,"featured_media":4853,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[34],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-957","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-sugar-skills","8":"anons"},"views":499,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sugardaddy.world\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/957","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sugardaddy.world\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sugardaddy.world\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sugardaddy.world\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/10"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sugardaddy.world\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=957"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.sugardaddy.world\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/957\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sugardaddy.world\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4853"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sugardaddy.world\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=957"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sugardaddy.world\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=957"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sugardaddy.world\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=957"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}