{"id":1157,"date":"2016-09-06T11:48:13","date_gmt":"2016-09-06T03:48:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.sugardaddy.world\/blog\/?p=1157"},"modified":"2019-01-15T02:39:21","modified_gmt":"2019-01-15T07:39:21","slug":"lets-talk-failure-number-one-thing-lose-sugar-daddy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.sugardaddy.world\/blog\/lets-talk-failure-number-one-thing-lose-sugar-daddy\/","title":{"rendered":"The Number One Thing I Did to Lose My Sugar Daddy"},"content":{"rendered":"
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To Dear Sugar Baby and Sugar Daddy:<\/p>\n

I know it isn\u2019t as much fun as talking about the gifts but sometimes I think it\u2019s more important. Let\u2019s talk about failures. Let\u2019s talk about that moment you realized everything wasn\u2019t okay and your paycheck had walked away. Let\u2019s talk about what happens next.<\/p>\n

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It would be very easy for me to discuss why this was the CatDog\u2019s fault and I did nothing wrong. It wouldn\u2019t be a lie. I didn\u2019t do anything that my conscience regrets. However, this isn\u2019t about conscience. This isn\u2019t about him. This is about me. A businesswoman. Some women view sugaring as simply another form of dating.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t.<\/p>\n

For me, this is a business. This is how I will launch my creative business. With that in mind, I see things a little differently. Even if I can claim innocence, there\u2019s still a lesson to be learned. There\u2019s still a chance for me to analyze my own behavior and see how I can improve. How I can make my business better.<\/p>\n

And that was the main problem wasn\u2019t it? I forgot this was a business. I behaved as if I was on a date with a 25 years old man who knew he didn\u2019t have much to offer instead of a significantly older man whose ego had been stroked so often that he believed he possessed far more charm than he actually did.<\/p>\n

I forgot I was an oasis. My job is to become the perfect woman for him or as close to the perfect woman as my personality will allow. My job is to be his respite – to learn him and understand him better than he understands himself and for a few hours a week to give him an opportunity to just be. Be the self he thinks he is. Be the self that he wants to be. This is not a difficult task. I no longer keep company with men who are a trial to me. But it\u2019s easy for me to forget.<\/p>\n

I forgot they\u2019re all casually racist but don\u2019t believe they are. Ignorance is bliss and they live in blissful white privilege paradise. I know this. I do. I know it so well that I assume they\u2019re all racist until they prove otherwise. With that in mind, why in hell would I discuss white privilege so vehemently? I\u2019ve quietly but firmly ended conversations regarding race relations in America before without offending anyone. What happened that night?<\/p>\n

I forgot sex wasn\u2019t enough. Beauty isn\u2019t enough. Brains aren’t enough. It\u2019s the consistent and continual combination of the three in a way that best seduces the man in question that matter. One alone isn\u2019t going to hold him for long. Sure the sex will send him back to you briefly but if you think for one second that you\u2019re the only one taking vinegar baths, drinking cranberry juice, and working on your gag reflex, you\u2019re sorely mistaken. If you think you\u2019re the only one properly laying down some eyebrows and blending foundation, you\u2019re sorely mistaken. If you think you\u2019re the only one knocking a penis to the back of your throat- well. You know that\u2019s just silly. Sex is the easiest thing to replace at the end of a relationship. Beauty is next. Intelligence is last. Be smart enough to never forget that.<\/p>\n

I forgot you can lose your job at any moment. It\u2019s odd that I forgot that as it\u2019s the second time in two months I\u2019ve learned that lesson in the vanilla and sugar worlds. There is a reason why I now hoard every bit of cash that crosses my palm like a squirrel stocking for winter. It can end at any moment. It can end when you think everything is going so well. You have to consistently be ready. Luckily for me, I finally learned the lesson that one daddy isn\u2019t enough and had several dates lined up.<\/p>\n

But -I forgot the protocol. Every other time I\u2019ve wanted to leave a job, no one knew but me – until I turned in my two weeks notice. I quietly searched for and secured another job. I signed an employment agreement. I had a start date. Then I handed in my two weeks. If this was a job too, why hadn\u2019t I followed the same protocol? Why would I deprive myself of money?<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll say it again. I forgot this was a business. I run a service based business and all service-based businesses are at the mercy of their customers until they\u2019ve built a customer base large enough and steady enough that one poor experience, one loss doesn\u2019t really matter. I\u2019m not there yet. I don\u2019t know enough about what I\u2019m doing yet. With that in mind, every customer matters.<\/p>\n

Does every customer matter to such a degree that I\u2019ll compromise myself or my morals in a way that I find repugnant? No. I\u2019ll let a man go and not feel regretful about it. Does this mean that I can show up and behave any way I please and my customer is just supposed to accept it? Some of them will. For reasons I don\u2019t yet understand and that probably have very little to do with me. But I don\u2019t want the precariousness that comes with one man or two. I want the security that comes with two or three men with a possible in the wings.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

To Dear Sugar Baby and Sugar Daddy: I know it isn\u2019t as much fun as talking about the gifts but sometimes I think it\u2019s more important. Let\u2019s talk about failures. Let\u2019s talk about that moment you realized everything wasn\u2019t okay and your paycheck had walked away. Let\u2019s talk about what happens next. It would be …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":10,"featured_media":4858,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[30],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-1157","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-sugar-discussion","8":"anons"},"views":633,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sugardaddy.world\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1157","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sugardaddy.world\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sugardaddy.world\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sugardaddy.world\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/10"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sugardaddy.world\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1157"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.sugardaddy.world\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1157\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sugardaddy.world\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4858"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sugardaddy.world\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1157"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sugardaddy.world\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1157"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sugardaddy.world\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1157"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}